Fear of failure vs. fear of success. In writing it looks clear, sure plenty of people understandably have a fear of failure, but looks ridiculous why anyone would have fear of success.
And yet it is common. I for one can put both hands up to say success terrifies me way more than failure. In fact, I sit quite easily with failure. Perhaps it’s because my self doubt convinced me a long time again that I would fail, so then if and when it happens I am prepared and I can say “I knew this would happen!”
The saying whether you “believe you can or you can’t, you are absolutely right” rings true.
Success by comparison confronts feelings of worth. “Do you deserve this?’ For many, answering yes to that is a challenge.
Of course the answer is a definite yes. If you are a good person, you put in the hard work and commitment, then you most definitely do deserve all the fruits of your labour. If talent plus effort equals success, then maths says it’s time for you to enjoy the celebrations.
Matters of the vulnerable heart relating to worth and acceptance though are not as black and white or factual as mathematics.
Maybe we were told as a child we were not good enough, often in a completing unrelated and unimportant matter. Perhaps, we have tried numerous times at similar endeavors only to meet multiple failures. It could be that we have taken something on that statistics say our chances of success are slight. Regardless of the cause, known or unknown, being human can go hand in hand with doubting yourself.
I am no zoologist, but I am pretty sure other animals don't have “you can’t do this” playing through their head on repeat as they hunt prey. Based on survival of the fitness, I believe a predator goes in with confidence and conviction or else they place themselves in grave danger. A stalking lion, taking two steps forward and one doubtful step back in approach, gives it’s victim time to see and hear it coming. It also allows time to laugh comically at the feline cha cha and then either escape or counter attack.
By Amy Booth
Amy is a yoga and pilates teacher and personal trainer in Brisbane, Australia, where she runs a cute riverside studio and a personal training business. In addition each year she runs yoga and hiking retreats.
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